Failure is the foundation of success; success is the lurking place of failure. - Laozi
I just love this quote, not because I get them as justification for my failures, but it does make sense. How many times have you found yourself, “not worthy”? Once..twice..or many times. You think that there is a need of revamp, things gotta change. Even if not in the ways, certainly in approach.
There is a difference between losing and realizing yourself as “not worthy”. I’m not dealing with the taunts and razzes passed on by others as you fail, it’s about realizing it for yourself.
Which standpoint do you prefer?
If one loses, he can take two stands, one may be; I was eligible, I stood the chance, damn it was bad luck, hapless destiny, slimy karma, and I missed it. Another standpoint can have, I didn’t prepare well. I lacked the competency and so did I fall. It was an uninvited consequence, but the situations were certainly created by me.
The first standpoint is never going to have the realization of “I was not worthy for that”. It’ll have an instinct of being the deserving one. I could’ve achieved but the farfetched factors led me to the abyss. This concept lags a person behind in most of the cases. He finds himself suited for the conditions, thus obtaining a trivial confidence quotient. Certainly, the time has already gone, the chance has lapsed, but this confidence quotient slaps the person in his second attempt. It drives him to a comfort zone where he slacks down with his efforts. He goes passive, finding himself able of securing the niche. This immaterial realization proves to be the biggest hindrance in his attempt to fetch success the second time.
On the other hand the second standpoint flushes the mind out of self respect, drains the conceptions and varied forms of intuitions one holds for his success, and gives scope for a fresh and invigorated zeal. The realization of being not worthy is the product of loss, but a factor of gain too.
Societal take on failure
Everyone faces failures; some find it quite often while for some it’s rare. Every time you fail you would find your cynics getting over you. The scary glaring eyes would seem as ripping you apart. They will get their chance to mock you, to laugh on you, to pass on their razzes, and they will do it quite inexorably. They grab their chance with pleasure, and so do use it.
On the other hand those people who had been instilling confidence in you, used to boost you up, will go blank. Your aspirations were their expectations. Neither they will have anything for you, except those smiling condolences and solacing statements nor would you be expecting anything more. It would be your turn to taste defeat, and certainly it’s going to taste you awful.
At the top - You’re your life driver
Every action does have consequences. It’s your steer where you wanna take the consequences. I don’t say that every consequence holds the scope for a second chance, but if it has, ignite it with the sense of being “not worthy”.
